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>> Meeting Siu Cheng,
most people wouldn't guess

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that she has a disability.

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It's non-obvious, as is
the case for about 70%

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of individuals with
disabilities.

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>> Put a smile on my face,
and people are like --

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are totally shocked when I
tell them, oh, yeah, I do.

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I suffer from depression,
and they're like no, way.

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You don't seem like one.

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You don't seem like
a person with one.

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And I'm like, oh, okay, so
I'm supposed to come to work

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with a frown on my
face dressed like goth?

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I'm like, if that was the case,

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I think I would've been
booted off the job are ready.

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I wouldn't be an office manager.

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I would be probably
just an intern.

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>> One of the challenges that
Siu faces in work and life

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in general is hanging
onto her authentic self,

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rather than putting
a so-called mask.

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>> For someone who suffers from
depression, I feel like it's

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like you're living in your own
isolated world in a black box.

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No one can see you, and you
can't see yourself either.

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You know, just keeping
emotions in check,

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I think that's the hardest part,
because when you go to work,

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you're supposed to give off this -
you're a positive individual

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at all times, even if you're
having a crappy day at home

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or a crappy day in
your own personal life.

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And that has been probably the
hardest thing for me to do.

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Is it working for me?

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At times, At times.

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I say that because it's easier
to pretend or play pretend

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at work than to let
strangers know what's going

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on in your life.

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But at home, it's like, you
know, your family members

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or your close friends
see the real you.

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My son understands
and accepted the fact

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that I do have depression.

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So when I do have my
episodes of extremely sad,

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and he knows it,
he'll come over.

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He'll give me a hug.

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He'll basically treat it like as

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if I was home sick
with a cold or flu.

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He'll make me soup.

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He'll take care of me, and
he knows those are the times

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that mommy is not capable of
holding a regular conversation.

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>> One way Sui keeps a balance
between work and the rest

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of life is by taking time
for interaction at lunch.

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>> One thing I know,
it so far has worked,

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is that I've schedule
lunch on my own calendar,

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and I make sure I stick to it,

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and I don't like to
eat lunch by myself.

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I tend to -- when I eat lunch
by myself, I tend to get

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into depressing thoughts,
and so I start to,

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around 12 o'clock noon, I
will call all my coworkers.

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Hey, are you free?

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Hey, are you free?

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And I keep on asking until
someone says, yes, I'm free.

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And I'll say, all
right, great, let's go.

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You know, I find that if I find
at least one person to go with,

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I know my day's going
to get better.

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>> In addition to the emotional
and physical challenges

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that disability plays
in people's lives,

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culture can also be a factor.

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>> Family-wise, honestly,
to tell you,

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I don't have a strong
family support.

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Part of it is that mental
health is not discussed

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at the family table.

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In my particular culture,
mental health don't exist.

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Or I should say, any type of
disability are not discussed.

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>> Sui does try to balance work
and family responsibilities

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by taking at least a
little time for herself,

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like when she watches television
shows, including Criminal Minds.

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She also says one day,
she would be interested

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in getting an animal,
which can be sensitive

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to people's emotional
and physical needs.

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>> When I go to my mom's
house, we have a family dog,

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and she just knows that when
I am just having a bad day.

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You know, and I don't even
know how animals can do that.

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You know, like we don't even
speak the same language.

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Half the time, they don't even
do what we're saying, but yet,

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they just have a sense to
pick up on our emotions,

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and I really, really like that.